When I began my blog a year ago I kind of knew where I wanted it to go, but nothing was solid. I wondered around writing about things that interested me, but nothing stuck. A few months ago, I worked through a workbook that helped me define my passion and purpose. My passion and purpose came down to ONE THING, helping stay at home moms. You, who are reading this right now, my passion, my purpose is to help YOU. This is why I created a Facebook group just with YOU in mind. It is called Stay At Home Moms Thriving Not Just Surviving.
Why do we need another group?
Over the past few months, I’ve joined several different Stay at Home Mom Groups. In general, they were great, but I never quite felt like I belonged. While being a stay at home mom was hard work, I still loved every minute of it. I would give encouragement, advice, tips, and support, but it wasn’t. These women were Stay at Home Moms Thriving, they were barely surviving and didn’t want to do anything about it.
I wanted, no needed, something different, something more.
What if I am barely surviving?
That’s ok. I have people ask me all the time, how I do it. I will tell them that some days I don’t do it. I fall apart. I’m writing this on a Wednesday, but the Sunday and Monday before, I fell apart. I mean I was a HOT MESS! I was bawling. I felt like I was failing at EVERYTHING. I was afraid that my kids would grow up and hate me. My house was a mess, and my life SEEMED to be falling apart.
You should have seen the look on my husband’s face! Right now it is hilarious, but at that moment it was devastating. He didn’t get it. He didn’t understand. How could he? He has never been an overwhelmed 36 week pregnant SAHM of 6. At that moment, and for 48 hours, I was not thriving. I wasn’t even surviving.
The big thing is that I didn’t stay there. You see I wanted to be one of those Stay At Home Moms Thriving Not Just Surviving. I was determined to get there, and nothing was going to stop me. You see, that was the difference. I was wanting to make a change. I refused to stay stagnate where I was.
I’m the only one who has this problem.
Oh sweet sister, this is SO not true. This is one of Satan’s biggest lies. He uses this to separate us from each other. If he can make us feel alone, like we are the ONLY ONE then he can get us. Being separated makes us vulnerable and weak. When we are together we can build each other up and fight. We will have each other’s back, protecting each other from the enemy.
I have already told you about my recent falling apart, but when you don’t know is that this isn’t the first time. It doesn’t happen as much as it used to, but it still happens. I have days where I don’t want to leave my room. I wonder why I got out of bed in the first place.
I’ve spent most of my life feeling just like this, alone, unwanted, unloved. No more! I refuse to feel that way, and that’s the purely selfish reason for creating this group. If I’m not alone, then the people in the group won’t be alone either.
What if I can’t stay in that place of thriving?
Honestly- no one can. No one is the perfect mom. We ALL fall apart. The difference between thriving and surviving is that you pick yourself up and try again. Maybe it I doesn’t happen immediately. Remember I said it took me 2 DAYS to get past what I was dealing with.
No one is perfect. We ALL struggle. If I a mom of soon to be 7 and my oldest is 19 still struggle, you will too. I have friends who are even MORE experienced than I am and they still have struggles. They may change, but there are still things they face every day.
A mom of grown children doesn’t have to worry about diaper changes, but she does struggle with the feelings and worry of failing her children. She needs to be reminded that she has loved them and done the best she can.
A mom who is still raising her children and is also a grandma will struggle with finding balance in her life. She will need encouragement and reminded that while she may not be able to the quantity of time she wants, she can still give quality time.
What does the group offer?
You mean besides a place to connect with other SAHMs?
You will find ideas, hacks, and creativity from women of all walks of life from all over the place. There is something special about knowing someone has your back, that when you are down, they will be there to pick you up.
From one of my favorite books, Captivating, the author Stasi Eldridge says, “When women gather, they ask meaningful questions. They want to how you ARE. Recipe swapping is all well and good, gardening hints helpful, but women friends unabashedly dive into matters of the heart.”
While I have a weekly plan for what happens in the group, God is free to take the group where it needs to go. So instead of being about the topic I wanted, we could spend the entire day helping someone recover from a loss, deal with a child who doesn’t want to sleep, (that would be me lately) how to get your husband to understand your need for time alone, or dealing with being overwhelmed.
I have nothing to offer.
Oh sweet sister, this is far from true. While it may seem like that to you, you are a treasure, a gift from God. He placed you on this earth with a purpose and a plan. You bring a unique perspective that no one else can bring.
I don’t know everything about everything.
If I want to know about herbs and gardening, I go to my friend Lori.
How about having a large family, I have a group I go to, but my friend Beth, always has my back and can laugh or cry with me depending on the need.
These women are part of my tribe, my village. None of them are perfect, they have their own struggles, but they have so much to offer, and not just the things I’ve mentioned.
My friend Michelle is a mom of 2 under 3. She loves on me in ways only she can. She encourages me to keep going. When I’m feeling like a failure, she points out the good things I’ve done.
So EVERYONE has something to offer. We are all in the same boat of Stay At Home Moms Thriving Not Just Surviving.
What makes you qualified to run this group?
That is a great question. A filled out a form to help me find my purpose, God’s plan for my life. When it came down to it, everything centered around inspiring, nurturing, and encouraging Stay At Home Moms. It was my passion. I love homeschooling, but it isn’t my passion. I desire a deep relationship with God, but for me that is personal and I don’t talk about it much.
So while I may not be “qualified,” there is something deep in me to serve in this way, so I going with it and seeing what God has in store for me and this group.
So how to do I join Stay At Home Moms Thriving Not Just Surviving?
This is the easy part. If you have a Facebook account, then you have the hardest part done already. Facebook is the hang out for the group.
All you have to do is click HERE and ask to join the group. I promise to add you as quickly as possible.
Once you are in, don’t hesitate to introduce yourself, check out the files sections, and add any information you need to add to those.
Then join in on the conversation.
You are just the person we have been waiting for. You are just what the group needed. So what are you waiting for? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.