By the time my children are done with lunch, I’m at my whits end. I’m so tired of the constant noise, the constant questions, and the constant chatter. Did I say constant enough? I do have a 3-year-old girl and 21-month-old boy. The noise had reached such a point today that it made it hard for my teens to focus on anything. I knew it was time for Quiet Time. You see in our house How Quiet Time Saves Your Sanity.
What is Quiet Time?
For some members of my family, it means nap time. The littles actually lay down and go to sleep. Sometimes the 3-year-old fights it, but she has to lay in bed quietly and can’t do anything else. The youngest one is actually put to sleep and he will sleep at least an hour if not longer.
For my middles, this means reading a book and listening to quiet music. This lasts about an hour or until the littles get up.
My teens use this time to get some heavy school work done in peace and quiet. They save the hardest part of their school work for this time of the day. Right now they are working on Chemistry. They are using the same book and they have to work together for the experiments.
This is my time to sit in the quiet and pull myself back together. Sometimes I meditate and redo my affirmations for the day. Other times you will find me curled up with a book reading, and sometimes I will crochet. It all depends on what I want to do, BUT for that hour at least no one needs me. I am NOT Mom, but Samantha. I am a person who has passions, hobbies and things I enjoy doing alone.
What kinds of families use Quiet Time?
I remember when I had 4 children and was losing my mind. My friend, Lori, introduced me to the concept of Quiet Time. She told me how she does it for her own sanity and not just for her children’s health. This was something that she had started when her children were little and continued on as she homeschooled them.
I know that not every family homemschools, and that is fine, but if you have little ones at home, you need Quiet Time more than anyone else. You have been chasing littles around your house all day. You have been answering questions all day. The children have talked or made a mess non-stop since they woke up. Let’s not even talk about how much food you have had to make and clean up.
You, Mama, need Quiet Time. You need this time to reenergize yourself for the rest of the day. This is YOUR time to do with as you please. Maybe it is working on your home-based business. Maybe you are a blogger like me and use the time to write your next blog post.
How am I to make this work?
Work is the right word for it. It is going to require some effort for you when you first start this. The littles will struggle and not want to nap. You may spend the first couple of weeks sending them back to bed. To be honest, I bribed mine. I promised a yummy snack if they stayed in bed.
For my middles, this was easier. If they didn’t give me my time, then they lost their video game time. It only took a couple of days for this to sink into their heads and then they got the point.
The person who needed the most work was me. I thought this would be my time to catch up on things that needed to be done around the house. Now, you could do chores, but that isn’t what is going to fill you up. This is your time to be still, to relax. Maybe you feel relaxed doing housework, but not me.
When should we do Quiet Time?
This is very personal for each family. Everything depends on your routine for your day. If you don’t have a routine yet, then check out my post called Why a routine will save your sanity?
We don’t eat lunch until noon, and from 12 to 1 all the kids have free time. When the weather is nice, I send them ALL outside.
Once they come in, the oldest boy puts the youngest boy to sleep. He won’t go to sleep for me, but his Buba is the bomb. The littlest girl goes to her room and lays on her bed with a pile of books to read until she falls asleep.
The older 4 spends about 15 minutes cleaning up after lunch. Then quiet falls over the house and I breathe a sigh of relief.
How Quiet Time saves your sanity
Maybe your home is calm and quiet. Your children always play nicely and clean up after themselves immediately. Maybe you think I’m crazy and this is only because I have 6 children. Well, my friend Lori, that I mentioned before, she had 3.
This isn’t a new concept. My husband’s grandma sent ALL of the kids outside after lunch so she could have some peace in her house. People have been using the concept of Quiet Time for a long long time.
Quiet time will become something not only something you look forward to but your children as well. It will be time for them to unplug and recharge their batteries. They will find peace in the alone time as well.
So when it comes down to it, Everyone needs Quiet Time, even the Mama who has it all together. Even the Mama who only has 1 child, she needs the peace and quiet of not constantly being needed.
Do you have Quiet Time in your house? What do you do to make it happen?